Sunday, October 31, 2010

My Favorite "Things"

Happy Halloween from Thing 1 and Thing 2! (Hadley/Leila)

If you're wondering why our costumes look like this:It's because, for inexplicable reasons, there was a lot of this tonight:
At which point I allowed this (eating fudge):
... which made us very happy!... so we ended up with flat hair and stained costumes. Totally worth it. :)

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Poll: Identical or Fraternal? (We're Finding Out!)

The envelope has been mailed -- we're testing Hadley and Leila to see if they're identical or fraternal!

Here's the scientific information: when I was pregnant with the girls, they didn't share a sac or a placenta. If either of those are shared, twins are automatically known to be identical (same egg, same sperm). Since they didn't share either of them, we were told that the chances were good that they were fraternal (two eggs, two sperm). However, in a small percentage of identical twins, the egg splits early enough that they don't share anything, either.

At first, we didn't care to get the girls tested. They looked alike, but we figured that babies from the same family tend to look alike anyway, and that they would look less similar as they got older. As the months went by, it still seemed like Tony and I were the only ones who could actually tell them apart! We started to get suspicious ... but twin zygosity tests are quite expensive.

Then, two things happened: I found a company who does testing for about half of what I expected to pay. A few weeks later, I won money on a Visa debit card for playing a silly game on! I told Tony that I wanted to use the money on a "non-necessity" item, since we normally have a pretty tight budget. He suggested getting the girls' zygosity tested. (A zygote is an egg ... thus the term "zygosity".)

So, what do you think? Are the girls identical or fraternal? We should know the results in a week or two, so I'll let you know what we find out!

Monday, October 25, 2010

Walking and Talking

Okay, so other than not being able to go out in public, this is such a fun phase! The girls' learning has just taken off suddenly, and I'm just hanging on for the ride. :) Hadley learned how to use the scooter yesterday, and she's already as good at it as Leila, so it's only a matter of time before she walks!

Also, Leila is counting to SIX! I'm serious -- she learned it without us asking her to, she does it without prompting (except when I wanted to get it on video), and all the numbers are there, although they aren't perfectly enunciated, obviously. You can only ask a 16-month-old to do so much. :) (Side note: that's Lavender, the purple bunny. Leila only sucks her thumb when she has Lavender, and we try to keep it in the crib, but you see how well that works.)

**If you can't get this video to play, click on the upper left-hand logo and watch it directly on the website. Not sure why it's not playing.**

Thursday, October 21, 2010

I Can't Take You Anywhere!

(This is long, and mostly therapeutic, but you're welcome to read along with me on my journey of self-discovery!)

I hate it when other people see me struggle.

A few weeks ago, we went back to Kansas for our college homecoming. I wanted to get together with my college roommates, so we decided to meet for dinner. We chose a sit-down Mexican restaurant ... and I'll admit, I chose the location, because our track record had been pretty good lately, and the girls had been happy all day. I took the twins with me, and Tony went out separately with a friend of his. At the restaurant, we were given a corner booth and two highchairs. I should have asked to move immediately, because the high chairs wouldn't really fit near the table. The twins were happy in the beginning, and I had plenty of snacks, but it was a late supper for them, and as we sat, they started to reach their limit. When we ordered, I asked for a cup of tomatoes to tide them over until our food arrived, but maybe my voice was lost in the screeching, because the tomatoes never came.

I asked for booster chairs, thinking that it would make the corner booth situation a little easier, but booster chairs don't have seat belts, so the girls (very vocally) thought they should probably be released from their cruel imprisonment and be allowed to play. I pulled out every snack, toy, and distraction from the diaper bag, while peering over the pile of discarded distractions on the table to try to see my friends, who were mostly staring at us and trying to decide whether to smile encouragingly or swear off having children.

Meanwhile, Tony and his friend came to the restaurant. Tony planned to pick up the girls and take them home while I finished catching up with my friends. However, the food hadn't arrived, so they joined us and chatted while we waited.

As time ticked on, and our food was apparently being imported directly from Mexico, the noise and activity level from the girls was gaining momentum. Not only were they separately hungry and tired of sitting still, they were also more than happy to contribute to each others' protests. We were definitely starting to get glances from other tables, although I want to believe that they were forgiving. Tony and I were trying to smile and speak kindly, because kids feed off of others' emotions, which will only make it worse. (Believe me, though, I was stressed, and I'm sure my roommates know me well enough to have seen through my facade.)

Suddenly, Tony's friend had had enough. "Come on, Tony, let's take the twins outside." I decided I could use some fresh air, too, so Tony and I took the girls out to use their energy until the food came. Really, I wanted to cry. I wanted to say to my childless friends, it's not this bad all the time. In fact, it's not EVER this bad. We're not bad parents who can't control their children, I promise. And until you've experienced it, please don't make judgments.

I'd like to tell you that things got better, but they didn't. By the time the food arrived, the girls were too wound up to eat. Tony ended up leaving with them pretty quickly.

Later, as I was replaying the debacle with Tony, I asked him if we should stop having children. I mean, we obviously can't even control the two that we have, so why in the world should we have more? His response: "No, but we may have to stop eating at restaurants without a play place for a few years."

It's as simple as that. We'll make adjustments to fit this crazy life that we've been given. Looking at the situation from that perspective, I'm embarrassed that I was selfish enough to even ask the question. I'm also embarrassed that I let one stressful situation cloud my perspective on life. I love that guy. (And I still love my kids.)

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Autumn Nutshell

It's been a while since I've posted ... we've been quite busy! In addition to traveling last weekend, I had my wisdom teeth removed on Wednesday. Turns out my body doesn't react well to anesthesia or vicodin, so it's been a rough recovery. But, I'm feeling better ... and here's a quick picture summary of our last two or three weeks (when did I post last?). I have videos (and a BIG milestone) to share with you, but that will have to wait. Enjoy!
  • Hadley and Leila learned how to text message. :)
  • They also had their first harp "lesson", thanks to the daughter of our next door neighbor.
  • We went to Sterling College for Homecoming, and saw lots of family and friends!
  • We wore our winter coats for the first time. (Look at Leila's cheesy smile!)
  • Leila learned how to make a kissy-face.
  • Hadley has become a "hillbilly" -- her top front teeth haven't come in, but a top side one has. :)

Sunday, October 3, 2010

The Bold and The Boo-tiful

Leila has learned a new word, just in time for Halloween!